To keep the spirit of Valentine’s Day alive, I decided on a whim to write about my husband and me. Our relationship has been all over the spectrum of love, anger, happy and sad. To say the least I love this man more than I ever thought I could. Our story is a hot mess. One we are still writing, but I wouldn’t trade him for anything.
It all really began the moment we met. I know love at first sight is cliche and most likely unrealistic. I didn’t love him as soon as I met him. I was blown away. I can picture it in my mind as if it just happened. I was standing with a friend and she introduced us. He was walking up from his car and was looking down at his phone. I don’t know what I expected, but as he looked up and shook my hand, I was speechless. I think my mouth literally hung open!
I had to tell myself internally to close my mouth and give an appropriate response. 😆
I don’t know what it was about him. Was it his curly dark hair? How handsome he was in the Button Down and slacks? Perhaps the baby face behind the square glasses? I have no idea. He was unlike anyone I had ever dated or found attractive. I knew. I knew from that moment that this was someone I was going to be in a relationship with. I didn’t know if it was going to end well or be a total disaster, but he was going to be in my life.
I said hello and basically ignored him for 3 MONTHS!
He was the most handsome thing I had ever laid eyes on. I knew it was inevitable, but I wasn’t interested. I had just gotten out of a horrible relationship and wanted to focus on myself. He was recently out of a relationship and needed to focus on himself. To top it off the last one wasn’t ready to let go of him, but I didn’t know that yet.
What I did know was that they had a very young baby together. To me that spelled disaster. My youngest was starting school. I had no desire to have more babies at that time. I didn’t want to date anyone with a “baby momma”. When I decided to date I wanted stability. I told myself he would eventually take her back and not to get involved. I didn’t know any of their history, but I knew they were young and learning how to parent. It was none of my business.
Fast forward the 3 months of watching him walk by almost every day. 😍(I love the way he looks in slacks) 😍 My friend (married to his best friend) called and said “hey you want to hear something funny”. I was like okayyy….
She said “he has a crush on you. We should go on a double date”.
My response was to laugh. Then I asked what’s wrong with him. I mean I’m a hot mess why would he want to date me? It literally took her all day to convince me to go. We went on our first date and I totally ignored him. I felt so bad. It was awkward and I couldn’t get past the fact that he is 6 years younger than me. In my head I heard every reason why this was a bad idea.
After that we spent some time awkwardly hanging out together as a group of friends. These are the things I learned about him: he’s very quiet but opinionated. He is intelligent, with a craving for more out of life. Watching him, as I was learning who he was, I knew he was the one.
I didn’t know how we were going to get from the awkward hang outs to forever, but I could see everything I wanted standing right there….